Ok, so how did we go with practicing being in the Now with the Breathing practice?
Did you remember to commit to memory the feeling, no matter how big or small, of calmness?
As we move forward with the practice of Mindfulness for Meditation and Well Being, we do need to make sure we acknowledge this change. The change from a mind so full it’s bursting to the brim, to a mind empty and relaxed. This goes a long way to building that neural pathway I spoke about earlier, in ‘You Don’t Need to Put off Meditating Until you Have 30mins to do it’. That will lead you to a better way of being.
So maybe the breathing one did not work, or you could not manage to put it into a daily routine. That’s ok. I have a few more practices of Mindfulness that you may want to try as we are on this journey to learn how to relax and be in a calmer state.
Let’s try the mindful approach to making a cuppa. I will use coffee as an example. Somewhere in your day, I will assume here, you will make yourself a hot drink of some sort.
Remember, this is all about finding you a task that you can do and do it mindfully. To begin to get you out of the mindset that this meditation thing “I don’t have enough time.” Non-sense- the Therapist in me says.
So how do we make a cuppa mindfully and contribute it to our practice towards bringing the mind into the moment, thinking of only one task and not all the other jobs you have lined up for the day.
Well here goes, I will explain it for you. It is probably going to feel like it will take forever to make a cup of coffee but it’s all in the detail.
We need to come into the Now. Using all your senses we will make this cup of coffee together.
You are in the tea room, notice the space, the sounds, the smells, feel any breezes.
- Reach for your favourite cup and notice the colour and how the cup feels when you touch it.
- Placing it on the bench, hear the sound as it touches the surface.
- You reach for the kettle and fill it up with water, watch all that you do, feel that splash of water as you pour the water in, hear the sound of the tap turning on and the water pouring out.
- Kettle full, now turn it on. Hear the sound of the kettle as it starts to boil the water.
- Back to the cup. Yay, this is a brand new coffee jar, so take full advantage as you peel off that gold foil top and quickly smell the divine coffee scent. See the grains of coffee. (I don’t drink coffee but that smell I would fight you for lol)
- Now you spoon it into the cup, add your sugar.
With every movement –use your senses; be there in the coffee making process.
- The kettle is whistling, you can see the steam coming out of the spout, as you reach over for it you can feel the warmth of the steam.
- Pouring the water into the cup you watch as it swirls around, filling the cup, notice the smell once again.
- Add your milk, watch as the colour changes, stir –what way does the liquid move?
- Raising the cup to your mouth the temperature gets warmer, the smell stronger, and hmmm your taste of coffee. The taste buds are dancing as the warmth goes down in to the belly, so so comforting.
I will stop here, I think you will get the picture I am trying to paint. Enjoy every little detail of what you are doing. This way your mind is only thinking on one thing and that is the coffee making.
And guess what, you have just given the mind a chance to become still and only think of one thing. In those moments of making your coffee you have been mindful and given yourself permission to relax into the Now.
You are getting there. Slowly, (always the best policy) you are adding more moments of mindfulness into your day, and by the time I have offered you up a few more, you will not be able to say to me but I just couldn’t possibly find time to be mindful, to create space in your mind to be experience a sense of calm.
I hope you will give this a try and let me know how it goes.
Here’s to A Better Way of Being.